Hello, dearies! Happy belated First Day of Spring! It’s one of my favorite calendar days, but, Springing Forward is the real celebration for me. How did you spend your extra hour of daylight? We took an extra long walk and then I deadheaded the daffodils. This is Beersheba and Thalia. Thalia is my favorite, pure white and delicate. I don’t know why she isn’t facing me. Camera shy, I guess.
‘Kay, so by now, you’ve probably also done The First Sandals of Spring. I did. Whoo! It was tough, because I pretty much lived in my rubber boots all winter. But, I have, as you have, I’m sure, performed periodic personal pedicures over the last month and was ready. If you’re not, don’t miss my entry on Pretty Feet.
Okay, so this past winter, I talked to many of you regarding specific issues related to wedding planning, relationships, buttinskis… And I always meant to share some of these stories here (only the names and maybe some dates will be changed), so all of y’all could hopefully learn from them. Annette was a bride-to-be I hand held in December. She had booked me for her June, 2008, wedding last summer. She called me in September to tell me the wedding had been rescheduled. No problem, I told her, and we changed the date. She called me a couple months later to say her fiance wanted to change the date again. I scratched my chin. Now, you know I hate to get involved… tsk, do not! But, I had to ask, what is the problem? He had a number of excuses, none of which sounded to me like something that couldn’t be remedied. She had already lost some deposits from the first postponement. I grabbed her hand, looked her in the eyes, and said, "Sweetie pie, just how much money are you willing to lose?!"
She burst into tears. And the whole ugly truth came out. I told her, in spite of the money she’ll lose this second time, consider it a relatively cheap lesson, grab what’s left of your heart and RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!! This man i’nt gonna marry you!! She agreed, knew I was right, vowed to start paying attention to that knot in her stomach, and said she felt as if a weight had been lifted. Yeah, 165 pounds of commitmentphobe!! I hope she’ll be okay. I hope she contacts me again, because I’d love to know how things worked out for her.
And I have to apologize for the "commitmentphobe" comment. It’s not always about that. It’s just for some reason, the two of them weren’t right for each other. I’ve always said it’s not one person, or the other, it’s the combination. And some people just plain ol’ don’t think they deserve happiness and will sabotage any bits they may encounter. You KNOW, in your heart, in your stomach, whether it’s good or not. Just admit it, gather the pieces, and get on with your life! If you’re happy, you will attract happiness.
Anyway, Annette, this is for you. It’s Madigan–cousin of my friend, Diana Miller. Some of you may know Diana. She’s one best-of-the-best photographers I know. A real artist. And, Madigan’s got it down, and we can all learn from her perspective–an awesome opportunity!!
"Happiness is like a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you." –Nathaniel Hawthorne.
Yeah, what he said. And Madigan, too.