Okay, I give up. Y’all are just never gonna ditch the unity candle, are you? Oh. You want to be different. I see. Well, if you want to be different just like everybody else, keep the unity candle. Tsk. I€™m sorry. It is charming, the two becoming one and all. But, it€™s just that I see so many couples struggling against the wind to: a) light these things, and b) keep them lit. I saw a homemade contraption built to foil the wind a few weeks ago. They had a piece of cardboard covered in lavender plastic sheeting fixed in an upright position behind the candle with duct tape! Charming. It still didn€™t work.
Here€™s what YOU can do. Go to Wishing Well, Michael’s or any good-sized crafts store. Buy a hurricane. It€™s that shapely glass tube that goes over a candle and holder. While you€™re at it, buy two smaller ones for the side candles. These will protect not only your flames, but will also prevent bad omens, negative karma, wax on your tablecloth, a scorched veil, and other like horrors. They can easily be lifted while the candles are lit and then replaced to safeguard the flame and the success of your marriage (if you believe in omens.)
Please, make sure the hurricanes are appropriate to the candle. I had one bride who dutifully bought her hurricanes, but the side candles were sticking way up out of the hurricane by three inches. I call that "unclear on the concept." It€™s been quite some time since I€™ve seen something new at a wedding. Oh, a few things from the past years are springing to mind€”-remind me to tell you about the horse hooves, the invisible bride, um…well, the other things were lame, so nevermind. But, anyway, Saturday before last, I took the doves to a lovely outdoor wedding. On the table where I usually see the candle thang, there was one large empty vase and two smaller vases each with a different color sand. When it was time, the bride and groom each picked up one of the colored sand vases and simultaneously poured them into the larger vase. It was lovely. And if it made it through the ceremony, the reception, and the aftermath, it would make a wonderful wedding keepsake on your mantel or altar at home.
So, you still want to burn (stuff)? Get a candle with two wicks. Maybe you become one candle when you marry, but you€™re still two flames. Or if you want to include your children, find a candle with as many wicks as necessary. I€™ve seen them with up to four in the stores (check out Pottery Barn), but never five or more. If you€™re clever, you can always drill more holes and buy some wick at the craft store. Or make your own. P.S. You may not care about this stuff, but if you do, try to find a more attractive incendiary device than those cheap disposable, red plastic lighters (shudder.) How about a sterling torch lighter? Details, details, details…
-- Don€™t forget, you may become one candle when you marry, but you€™re still two flames.