Ten years and one month ago today, I was wrapping chocolate truffles at 10:30 in the eveningÂ as favors for my parents’ 50th anniversary party which was to be held theÂ following morning.Â My then boyfriend noticed I was gnashing my teeth and he pitched in to help.Â Grateful, I said, "Thanks, hon, now I know you REALLY love me!"Â He said, "I just feelÂ SORRY for you!"
Well,Â of course, he really loved/s me, but I truly was pitiful that night.Â Waited ’til the last minute, though with the finest chocolate truffles, you can’tÂ buy themÂ TOO far in advance, freshness and all.Â Â So, anyway, I wrapped them in antique gold lace tied with a gold ribbon–pretty, but I know it took a few days off my life, even though I only had to do 50.Â And didn’t have a zillion OTHER things to do!
If you want something really nice, and I guaranTEE you will have a zillion other things to do the week before your wedding,Â you will want to hire a professional to design andÂ produce your wedding favors.Â As I’ve said before, if youÂ don’t think you have the budget,Â consider what your timeÂ will beÂ worth those last few days before your wedding.Â
Susie,Â owner of Favors With Style, has put together some of the prettiest little packages I’ve ever seen.Â Tell her a little bit about the two of you, hobbies, etcetera, and she’ll suggest a favor, AND she’ll custom design aÂ gift tag,Â add someÂ significantÂ embellishments, all wrapped upÂ perfectly.Â Every favor is completed by hand.Â She can alsoÂ deliver the favors to your receptionÂ site and place them on the tables.Â Some locations charge you extra if they have to futz with your stuff.Â Susie can work miracles with short notice,Â so even if you’re two weeks out, need 75 or more favors,Â and are starting to panic, call her.Â You will be SO relieved!Â
Bride Sarah asked meÂ for favor ideas.Â I told her to call Susie.Â Â But, here are someÂ P-POOs from my 18 years in the biz:
1.Â Offer favors that will be appreciated and/or used.Â You can’t go wrong with good chocolate.Â Notice I underlined "good"?Â That’s because you shouldn’t cut corners and offer cheap chocolate.Â
2.Â Beware of cute chocolate–you know, little molded shapes.Â Cute chocolate tries to get by on being cute.Â It doesn’t always taste good.Â If you’re the kind of person who can’t tell the difference between Coke and Pepsi, or real and fake whipped cream or lemonade, enlist the help of someone who can.Â M&Ms are okay, but (Personal Opinion Alert!) don’t waste your money on customizing them.Â If you have a message, print it on the favor box or tag.Â All M&Ms need is an "M".Â Anything else is just wrong.Â And they come in such pretty colors!
3.Â Â No one but your mother will keep that plastic cowboy hat that was filled with butter mints!Â Â 99.9 percent ofÂ anything cheap, tacky, or plasticÂ will be in the land fill by week’s end.
4.Â Hire a professional.
5.Â Be careful with breakables.Â One wedding, they gave out spun glass do-dads, and it became a real safety issue once the kids got bored.
6.Â If you must make your own favors, please dial WAY back on the tulle.Â The only way you should useÂ tulle is to cut strips and use it as you would ribbon to wrap a gift.Â Speaking of tulle, please try to avoid festooning your wedding site with it–it’s tired.
7.Â If you’re looking for the "pink link", here itÂ is/was.
8.Â Want something really tasty and unique, and FABulous?Â Oh! Babette’s 24 Kt. Caramels are gilded with real, edible 24 kt gold.Â Swanky!Â
9.Â Yes,Â the favor itself is important, but remember,Â if they’re goingÂ to be placed on your beautiful linensÂ with your beautiful flowers as a back drop, the packaging is EXTRAÂ important.Â I won’tÂ say they have to match, but they should be complementary.
10.Â We went to Sonoma the day my then boyfriend proposed exclusivity.Â We stopped for supplies on our way out of town, andÂ I STILL have that (now empty) box of animal crackers, and the mini Milky Way (it’s in the fridge).Â If you’re a sentimental fool, too, andÂ have a similar story of your courtship, use it!Â Tie up that box of animal crackers or Cracker Jack with beautiful ribbon and a tag with your names and wedding date, and maybe a synopsis of why it’s significant.Â People love that (stuff)!
11.Â I LOVE BUBBLES!Â They’re fun, and I almost always have some in my purse.Â But, save them for merrying up your grand departure, because (Personal Opinion Alert!) they’re not favors.Â
12.Â No matter how pretty they are, or clever the shape, (Personal Opinion Alert!) soap does NOT belong on a breakfast, lunch, or dinner table.
12a.Â And I know I’ve mentioned this elsewhere, but I repeat, there is a proper hole punch for any particular job.Â Please do not use a standard size hold punch if you intend to thread a delicate gold cord through it.Â There is aÂ 1/8th" punch for that job.Â And if you want to festoon your favors/invitations with ribbon, use a rectangle punch.Â Check our your friendly neighborhood office supply or craft store.Â SO many punches!!Â The right tool for the job.
The DoveÂ Lady stamps her tiny feet when she isÂ served Coke after ordering Pepsi.Â Â She willÂ NOT eat faux whipped cream.Â And you already know what she’d rather do than drink fake lemonade…that’s right…parch andÂ get eaten aliveÂ by vultures.
And when you use theÂ wrong size hole punch on your otherwise beautiful favors/invitations/____, it hurts The Dove Lady’s eyes.Â And her feelings.