One of my brides just referred a friend who isn’t planning a wedding, but is in a bit of a pickle. Thought maybe I could shed some light. Only the names have been changed to protect the clueless.
"Victoria" has been seeing a man four about four months. She met him through mutual friends, so she’s pretty sure he’s not married or a serial killer. But, she says he’s very mysterious. She’s been to his apartment, knows there’s a land line, but he’s never given it to her, and even tap danced around the subject when he lost his cell phone for three days (he’s almost always reachable on his cell phone).
He doesn’t talk about his family–skirts that issue, too, except for admitting they’re on the other side of the country. Evenings are usually spent at either’s home. The few and far between dinner dates are in a nearby town, because "he likes to try new restaurants." And that’s fine, too. But, what bothers her most, is that she hasn’t met any of his friends.
They ran into a co-worker, but "Boyfriend" didn’t introduce her and seemed a little fidgety about the whole encounter. She asked him what that was all about, and again, he muttered something lame and changed the subject.